Can I have a lager?
Oh my gosh, I am so JAZZED. There is no other way to describe it.
On Monday night, Marini was telling me about how he broke up with Sara. Being the ‘good’ friend I was, I told him that she really wasn’t worth it anyway, and I spilled the beans on how she has no qualms about cheating on him.
Needless to say, (MY HYPOTHESIS) he confronted Sara about it and ended their on-off 5 year relationship for good. When Trinity teased Marini about it, he told her that they were no longer together. She then chided him, saying that it was only gonna be a matter of time until they reunite, but he reaffirmed himself, saying that this one is permanent.
I casually left that aside until I came home. I turned on my gmail and received this notification from facebook:
Sara wrote on your Wall:
“hey dear.. i just wanted u to know that i loved daniel a hell lot. but watever u said to him just ended our 5 years of relationship. i find it a huge pity. anyways, study hard for ur exams, dun be too stressed up. hope to see u and the rest on my birthday. hugs..”
After reading it, a million words just went thrashing in my head. Why did Marini tell her? Sara won’t ever trust me again after this. Am I a good friend or a horrible one? I just couldn’t take it.
I called Marini to ask him why did he tell Sara that I divulged all this personal information. He said that he needed to verify what I said to her. Fair enough. I then complained to him, saying that I just feel shitty because I betrayed a friend. He assured me I did the right thing, and told me not to worry because I’ll never see her again.
I can’t take the burden of doing the right thing. It’s so damn hard. But at the same time, why is Sara blaming me for her failed relationship? It’s not as if I was lying. In fact I was telling the cold and painful truth. Hell, I didn’t need to. It’s on her facebook profile that she’s hugging some other guy (NOT Marini, her ex boyfriend). I don’t have to tell anyone she’s disrespectful — she does it to herself.
All I was doing was looking out for my friend. I’m pretty sure his relationship with Sara was an emotional turmoil, and I did what I had to do as a friend who cared for him.
Sara may hate me for what I did, but in the end, I still have to maintain my loyalty to Marini. I would probably be worse off not telling him a damn thing, and letting him continue in the vicious cycle of multiple breakovers.
Question to whoever reads this: if you knew your friend’s partner was unfaithful but you were on good terms with him/her, would you tell your friend? Or would you keep the silence and pretend that everything is peachy fine?
You know that really cliche saying, “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you?”
If I were being cheated on, I would like to know, pronto, so if Good Friend A was cheating on Good Friend B I would definitely tell B.
The way I see it, it’s better to save your friend, end the suffering, instead of prolonging it.
I’m very proud of you BFF. You did the right thing.
I agree, I’d tell Good Friend B. I told Schenelle whatever Vikrant told me when I knew he was lying to her, even though I felt bad being in the middle, which i stopped and only befriended Schenelle. But i told Vikrant in the end that its hard and I can’t be in the middle. Somehow, girlfriends mean more. You should know me.